Sometimes the truth hurts.
Sometimes the truth hurts. And the truth is, each one of us our guilty of lying to ourselves each and every day.
We tell ourselves things like:
I’m going to start eating perfectly on Monday. I’m going to start a blog on January 1st. My parents are the reason for my current financial mess, even though I haven’t lived with my parents in 20 years. If only I had the money that she has I’d be happy. And if only I had a swimming pool, then my life would be perfect!
But the truth is, these are all lies! And the lies you tell yourself are the most damaging lies of all. That’s why I’m here to take a deep-dive into 7 common lies you really need to stop telling yourself:
1. I’ll be able to pay it off next month, so it’s okay if I buy it now.
Using debt to purchase anything can quickly turn into a slippery slope. It’s easy to convince yourself that you’ll brown-bag your lunch for the next month, or that you won’t go out for 30 days. However, we rarely seem to stick to these promises.
● Debt has a tremendous potential to snowball. Avoid using debt as much as possible.
2. I’ll start on Monday.
Whether it’s a diet, a budget, an exercise plan, or any other undertaking, it’s a lie to tell yourself that you’ll start on Monday. Of course, Monday might not be your day of choice. Some people really prefer the first of the month or the first of the year.
● If it’s worth doing at all, it’s worth starting right now.
3. It’s all my parents’ fault.
There’s no doubt that some parents are lousy at the job of parenting. But you’ve had plenty of opportunities to put your life back on track. Putting the blame for your present on the past limits your future. There is plenty you can do today to make your life better.
4. If I just had _____, everything would be perfect.
Once you have the money, body, job, or whatever else it is you think you need to have a “perfect” life, you’ll likely find something else that you just have to have. There’s always another thing waiting behind the thing you currently want.
5. I’m different from everyone else.
A lot of people believe there’s something wrong with them. And it’s not just something wrong with them, it’s something uniquely wrong with them.
● Everyone is unique, but the similarities between people are far greater than the differences. You’re not that different, and it’s unlikely there’s anything wrong with you that can’t be managed.
6. It’s too late for me.
For some things, it might be too late. But it’s not too late for a lot of things. Waiting longer than you should have can make a lot of things less convenient, but that’s not the same as being too late. It just means you’re going to have to work harder or endure more inconvenience.
● There’s a penalty for waiting, but it’s rarely insurmountable.
7. The timing isn’t right.
The timing is never right, and it’s never going to be right. Do it now while you can. Each day that you wait is another day of delay. You’re not going to live forever, and life never follows your plans anyway. Just do it. We lie to ourselves to make us feel better. Telling ourselves that we’ll start losing weight on the 1st of the month puts our minds at ease and allows us to eat poorly until that start date.
It’s so easy to fall in the trap of blaming others for our challenges. What we need to focus on instead is how we are going to overcome these challenges. Each challenge is merely an obstacle for us to find a way around.
And as a coach it is my job to help you do just that!
I’m here to help you breakdown your barriers and discover the life that is awaiting you on the other side. Book a complimentary coaching call and let’s figure out your next step!
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