449: Stop Standing On The Edge And Finally Dive Into The Life You Want (Summer Shift Week 3)

<v Speaker1>They're already in the water. You got your friends on the pool float,

Kevin Lowe: People swimming around, laughing, splashing.

<v Speaker1>And yet you, you're still standing on the side

Kevin Lowe: Of the pool.

<v Speaker1>You got your toes right to the edge. You've dipped your big toe in the water. But oh my gosh,

Kevin Lowe: That water is cold.

<v Speaker1>And you know it's cold. And so you keep standing there.

Kevin Lowe: You keep delaying, putting it off, thinking to yourself that you just want to do it.

Kevin Lowe: Why can't I just do it?

<v Speaker1>And so you keep standing there.

Kevin Lowe: And your friends, they're yelling at you, get in the water. It's fine.

<v Speaker1>It warms up as soon as you get in. My friend, this scene, this scenario, it's not a pool problem.

<v Speaker1>It's not a cold water problem. It's a life problem.

<v Speaker1>Because my friend, if you've been standing on the edge of something that you've been wanting,

Kevin Lowe: But you've been too scared to actually go for it.

Kevin Lowe: Well, today is for you.

<v Speaker1>My name is Kevin Lowe,

Kevin Lowe: And this is Grit.

<v Speaker1>Grace, and Inspiration. And today, episode 449, we are in our

Kevin Lowe: Third week of the Summer Shift series. This series is here to help.

<v Speaker1>You make one meaningful shift each week to hopefully move the needle forward in your entire year.

Kevin Lowe: Because I believe the.

<v Speaker1>Summer is a

Kevin Lowe: Perfect opportunity that we can have some fun.

<v Speaker1>But we can also make some meaningful gains in our life. And so that's what

Kevin Lowe: I'm doing inside of our Summer Shift series.

<v Speaker1>Again, this is week number three

Kevin Lowe: Of a 12-week series.

<v Speaker1>In which we're helping you move the needle forward.

Kevin Lowe: Now, in relation to today's topic.

<v Speaker1>In regards to week number three, standing on the edge of the pool, <v Speaker1>the part where most people get

Kevin Lowe: Stuck in life.

<v Speaker1>Is the in-between. They get stuck in this in-between.

<v Speaker1>They know what they want, but they don't actually ever pursue it.

<v Speaker1>Or maybe they pursue it to a degree, but they never actually take that meaningful step.

<v Speaker1>If we want to go back to our pool analogy, yeah, you put on the bathing suit, <v Speaker1>you went to the pool, but you're standing at the edge of the pool.

<v Speaker1>You've never actually dove in.

Kevin Lowe: That gap, that space in between.

<v Speaker1>That's where fear comes into play.

Kevin Lowe: Because we all start thinking about the what if scenarios.

<v Speaker1>What if it goes wrong? What if I fail? What if the water is too cold?

<v Speaker1>What if I can't swim once I jump in?

Kevin Lowe: Or what about that horrible feeling?

<v Speaker1>What about people who are going to judge me?

Kevin Lowe: Who, when they learn of what I'm trying to do, what I want to accomplish, what my dream is.

<v Speaker1>What are they going to think about me? So instead, what happens so many times <v Speaker1>is we stay standing there on the edge, <v Speaker1>stuck in the in-between, in this space in between what we want and actually <v Speaker1>achieving it, actually making it come true. Maybe we think about

Kevin Lowe: The idea when we're laying in bed at night and we say to ourselves, tomorrow is going to be the day.

<v Speaker1>Tomorrow I'm going to do the thing.

<v Speaker1>And then we never do because

Kevin Lowe: We get scared.

<v Speaker1>And we think we'll just put it off.

<v Speaker1>You stand there on the edge while everybody else is in the pool having fun doing the thing,

Kevin Lowe: Yet you just can't make yourself do it.

<v Speaker1>If you have

Kevin Lowe: Found yourself in this.

<v Speaker1>Situation with anything that you can imagine,

Kevin Lowe: Whether it's something related to your career.

<v Speaker1>Your own health goals, anything and everything, if you found yourself stuck <v Speaker1>in the in-between, you know what you want,

Kevin Lowe: But you're too scared to go get it.

<v Speaker1>And maybe you haven't

Kevin Lowe: Even said to yourself that it's actually fear.

<v Speaker1>Or you being scared,

Kevin Lowe: Instead, you've honestly.

<v Speaker1>Been making up

Kevin Lowe: Excuses that hold you back about how it's not the right time, that, uh, that's for people who are younger than me.

<v Speaker1>I'm too old.

Kevin Lowe: My opportunity has already passed. If that's you, well, my friend, this is meant for you.

<v Speaker1>What I'm saying today is meant for the person who is stuck in this in-between.

<v Speaker1>It's the exact same scenario as you standing on the edge of the pool,

Kevin Lowe: Too scared to jump in, too fearful of the cold water.

<v Speaker1>And let's be honest,

Kevin Lowe: Life, I think maybe the human nature.

<v Speaker1>It's there to protect us, but it's also getting in our way.

<v Speaker1>Because when you're standing on the edge of the pool, you already know what's comfortable.

Kevin Lowe: Yeah, maybe the pool deck might be hot.

<v Speaker1>But it's comfortable. You, your mind, your body would rather just remain in what's comfortable,

Kevin Lowe: What it already knows.

<v Speaker1>Than it would to experience the unknown. Because at the end of the day, isn't that always

Kevin Lowe: The thing that holds us back?

<v Speaker1>It's the unknown, the uncertainty of it all.

Kevin Lowe: It's easier to just stay comfortable.

<v Speaker1>To stay in our routine,

Kevin Lowe: To not venture out.

<v Speaker1>Because if we venture too far, then what happens? What's next?

Kevin Lowe: Now, the thing that I want you to understand.

<v Speaker1>Though, is that looking at this metaphor of the swimming pool, the water is

Kevin Lowe: Always coldest right at first.

<v Speaker1>When you dip your big toe in, of course, it's freezing.

Kevin Lowe: But the people who get to have fun.

<v Speaker1>Who get to enjoy it, who get to reap

Kevin Lowe: The rewards of it.

<v Speaker1>Are the people who dove in anyways.

Kevin Lowe: The people who realized, you know what? Yeah, it's going to be cold.

<v Speaker1>I bet it's freezing. But after a few minutes,

Kevin Lowe: I'm going to get used to it.

<v Speaker1>And I'm going to get to enjoy this day. I'm not going to be standing there wondering,

Kevin Lowe: What if?

<v Speaker1>I'm going to be living it out.

Kevin Lowe: I'm going to get to end this day with a smile on my face instead of regret.

Kevin Lowe: That's what I want for you. I don't want you to regret your life.

<v Speaker1>I don't want you to regret the things that you didn't do,

Kevin Lowe: The choices you didn't make or the choices you did make to never actually get in the water.

Kevin Lowe: You decided that you were OK.

Kevin Lowe: Well, you didn't decide that.

<v Speaker1>You pretended it.

Kevin Lowe: You made yourself believe that.

<v Speaker1>You didn't really

Kevin Lowe: Want to get in the water after all. You just did your hair.

Kevin Lowe: You didn't want to mess up your outfit, even though you had on a bathing suit.

<v Speaker1>You didn't want

Kevin Lowe: It to get.

<v Speaker1>Impacted by the chlorine.

Kevin Lowe: So you make all these crazy excuses as to why getting in the water just wasn't the right thing.

Kevin Lowe: Instead, you sit back down in the lawn chair and you're sweating.

<v Speaker1>You're hating life. and yet the whole time you're lying to yourself

Kevin Lowe: That you want it like this.

<v Speaker1>My friend, that is not what living is about.

<v Speaker1>Life, living, it's about taking chances, about diving in even when the water is cold.

<v Speaker1>It's about going for it.

Kevin Lowe: We only get one opportunity of this life. Every day is a gift, is a blessing.

<v Speaker1>We never know what tomorrow will hold.

Kevin Lowe: So if you find yourself at the edge of the pool today.

<v Speaker1>My friend, for goodness sakes, go ahead and jump.

Kevin Lowe: Now, the breakthrough that I want you to really understand.

<v Speaker1>If you find yourself in this in-between, you're standing there unable to move <v Speaker1>forward, I want you to understand this important lesson that I'm about to teach.

Kevin Lowe: This important thing I'm about to try to get through is the simple fact that it doesn't take a monumental leap to.

<v Speaker1>Make a big

Kevin Lowe: Impact.

<v Speaker1>You don't even

Kevin Lowe: Have to have it all figured out. You don't have to even feel ready.

<v Speaker1>You literally need one thing, one simple decision, a decision that you're just <v Speaker1>going to take the next step.

<v Speaker1>And when you make a decision to take just the next step, you eliminate the fear. You no longer give it

Kevin Lowe: Permission to have control over your life.

<v Speaker1>Over your destiny, because you're going to take the next step.

Kevin Lowe: Now, the next step doesn't have to be monumental.

Kevin Lowe: You don't have to climb up to the high dive and jump in the pool that way.

<v Speaker1>No, you can just slip in to the pool from the edge. But the important part is that whatever

Kevin Lowe: The step is.

<v Speaker1>That it's actually meaningful, that it means something. It can be small,

Kevin Lowe: But not so small as to just dip your toe in the water again.

<v Speaker1>No, you have to actually get in the water.

Kevin Lowe: The step you take has to be meaningful, but it doesn't have to be massive.

Kevin Lowe: So for this week in our summer shift series.

<v Speaker1>I'm going to leave you with this challenge. I want you to name the pool that <v Speaker1>you've been standing beside. The thing

Kevin Lowe: That I keep.

<v Speaker1>Saying that I'm going to do when conditions are perfect, when I'm ready, what is that?

Kevin Lowe: What is that thing that you lie awake at night thinking about, dreaming about?

<v Speaker1>And yet when daylight comes, you find yourself making excuses. What is it for you?

Kevin Lowe: What is that thing?

<v Speaker1>What is your swimming pool that you want so badly

Kevin Lowe: To dive into, to get to experience.

<v Speaker1>And yet you've been holding back from? Name it.

Kevin Lowe: Declare it. Say it out loud.

<v Speaker1>Tell it to a friend. Tell it to your family. Let your dream be known.

Kevin Lowe: And then the second part of this challenge is I want you to figure out what is the next step you need to take to make it come true.

<v Speaker1>Is it you picking up the phone and making the phone call? Is it you sending the email?

<v Speaker1>Is it you signing up for the class? Is it you hitting record on a podcast?

Kevin Lowe: Whatever it is, I want you to figure it out.

Kevin Lowe: I want you to ask yourself, what is the next step I have to take?

<v Speaker1>And of course, that

Kevin Lowe: Comes after declaring exactly what it is that you want.

Kevin Lowe: My friend, I want you to have the life that you were meant to have. I believe me and you.

<v Speaker1>We were meant to thrive in this life.

Kevin Lowe: And that's what I'm here to do is to encourage you to indeed stop just living and start thriving.

<v Speaker1>Starting right now, starting today by diving into the pool and getting to finally <v Speaker1>experience that amazing sensation for yourself.

Kevin Lowe: My friend, I'm Kevin Lowe.

<v Speaker1>This is Grit, Grace, and Inspiration. Again, we are

Kevin Lowe: In the midst of the Summer Shift series.

<v Speaker1>Helping you to make

Kevin Lowe: Some monumental gains in your life each week throughout the summer.

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Kevin Lowe: So, again, this is grit grace and inspiration. Get out there, my friend, and enjoy the day.

Kevin Lowe: And more importantly, go Ahead and get off the side and just dive in to the pool.

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